About 2MU

I am the creator of 2ndmanunited.com and all of the content you will find here.

My journey to create this ministry started when I was growing up in the institutional church.  As I grew in knowledge and maturity, I reached a point where I was frustrated and confused about the gap between Christian belief and Christian behavior in my church and community.  This led me to seek out and find answers through people, books and seminars.  What you will find here are the things I’ve learned (and continue to learn) along the way; not just from books, but from the fires of experience.

Because the typical Christian has been inundated with theology their whole lives, I decided this site would focus on the practice of the Christian life in community, which is mostly left out of what the typical church-goer learns from their typical church activities.  I use this knowledge to help facilitate the building of Christian community where I live, as well as help train other communities to do the same.

Michael Fleming

 

Warning! What Nobody Tells You About Joining A Small Group

Summary:  If you expect the people in your group to be “normal,” you’re in for a big surprise.  If you hope to build close-knit community with others Christians, you have to bring a different expectation.  You have to expect that everyone is fatally flawed, and that those flaws will negatively affect you at some point.  Continue Reading…

Why Your Small Group Discussions Stink & What To Do About It

Summary:  Especially at the beginning, groups are bad at having healthy, participatory Spirit-led discussions.  They need training and practice guided by someone skilled at facilitating.  There are lots of techniques that can be used to help with this training.  As time goes on, they can mature and the “training wheels” can start to come off. Continue Reading…

How to Keep Conflict From Ruining Your Small Group

The first thing we must address here is, what kind of small group/Christ-centered community are we talking about?  The kind that meet together once a week or two, discuss topics over coffee and snacks, and whose primary function is for its members to get their “spiritual food” for the week?  If this is the kind Continue Reading…

Small Group Decision-making: The Essential Concept You’ve Probably Never Been Taught

Summary:  Majority-rule isn’t of the Kingdom of God.  The Kingdom operates by consensus.   When you try to operate within a small group setting, you’re at a tremendous disadvantage.  You’re an American. Now the reason that’s a disadvantage has nothing to do with nationality or politics, but everything to do with culture and mindsets.  When it Continue Reading…