About 2MU

I am the creator of 2ndmanunited.com and all of the content you will find here.

My journey to create this ministry started when I was growing up in the institutional church.  As I grew in knowledge and maturity, I reached a point where I was frustrated and confused about the gap between Christian belief and Christian behavior in my church and community.  This led me to seek out and find answers through people, books and seminars.  What you will find here are the things I’ve learned (and continue to learn) along the way; not just from books, but from the fires of experience.

Because the typical Christian has been inundated with theology their whole lives, I decided this site would focus on the practice of the Christian life in community, which is mostly left out of what the typical church-goer learns from their typical church activities.  I use this knowledge to help facilitate the building of Christian community where I live, as well as help train other communities to do the same.

Michael Fleming

 

How to Keep Conflict From Ruining Your Small Group

The first thing we must address here is, what kind of small group/Christ-centered community are we talking about?  The kind that meet together once a week or two, discuss topics over coffee and snacks, and whose primary function is for its members to get their “spiritual food” for the week?  If this is the kind Continue Reading…

Small Group Decision-making: The Essential Concept You’ve Probably Never Been Taught

Summary:  Majority-rule isn’t of the Kingdom of God.  The Kingdom operates by consensus.   When you try to operate within a small group setting, you’re at a tremendous disadvantage.  You’re an American. Now the reason that’s a disadvantage has nothing to do with nationality or politics, but everything to do with culture and mindsets.  When it Continue Reading…

The Serial Killer of Organic Church & Small Group Meetings Everywhere

Summary:  Monologues have killed organic church meetings everywhere.  Those that like to give them are in every small group.  They are hard to stop because many don’t know they’re killers, don’t know they’re happening, or don’t know how to stop them.  These groups may have a chance to survive if they are eliminated from most of Continue Reading…

22 Synergistic Techniques for Facilitating Successful Small Groups

In the last post, we learned that good facilitators (leaders) love and respect people as they are.  They don’t treat them like things to be fixed.  Because of this, you won’t catch them constantly talking and giving advice.  You’ll catch them asking questions and listening most of the time. Facilitating a group is not a mechanical process. Continue Reading…